Hey y'all and welcome back to my b10g.
In this blogpost I am going to be sharing some things for people who may need to hear it right now. In the past, I have had many toxic friends so I decided to write what qualities make up a fake friend.
In definition, a toxic friend is a "friend" who acts like they are your best buddy at times, but are really rude and not someone who makes you feel good about yourself.
If you have noticed one of your friends goes behind your back or does things a real friend wouldn't do, you may have a toxic friend. Read the qualities below, and if you have a friend that connects to many of these, you may want to relook into that friendship.
Sign #1- You feel as though you are in competition with their other friends.
Do you think they give them a better friendship? They have things in common with her that you show no interest in? If you find yourself often studying the other friends to make sure they are not better than you, #1 that's kind of creepy and #2 you may not feel comfortable around your first friend in the end.
Sign #2- There is an imbalance in talk time.
Do you often feel as though the conversation is all about them? Whenever you try to talk about something, they turn the conversation about them? If they don't share an interest in what is going on in your life, or how you are doing or feeling, they are not worth your time.
Sign #3- They blurt out criticism with a self-righteous attitude.
It's important to be honest, but being kind should be equally as important. If they just straight up say to you, "I don't like your shirt," and you never asked for their opinion and they made you feel bad, why spend more time with them? If they are not open to criticism for them and they often cause you to not feel your worth, that is a bad friend.
Sign #4- You find yourself calling/texting them more than they text you.
If you feel as though they don't make as big as an effort to see you as much as you contact them, why bother? Hate to break it to you, but they probably don't care enough. This doesn't make you a bad person, but if they don't get as excited to see you as you get to see them, why are they worth another moment?
Sign #5- They tell you that you should change.
Um, honey, I should change? Maybe your attitude should change. Thats what you have to tell yourself. Never change who you are as a person, unless you are undeniably rude to them, in that case do change. But if you like grapes and they like strawberries, and they tell you that you need to like strawberries, say that you can like what you like and get out of that friendship.
Sign #6- You are nervous to talk to them, or you have to be careful what you say.
I don't know about you, but around my friends I'm unfiltered and I say what I want. If they tell me they don't agree, whatever. But if they are rude to you and say that you need a new opinion, that's not a good friend as a real friend would respectably disagree and respect your opinion.
Sign #7- You stress about seeing them.
If your "friend" expects you to be dressed in proper attire and be fancy when seeing them, they should care less what you look like and they would want to see you for your personality. Like if you are popular, and they only want to hang out with you to take instagram pics, that person is often insecure and needing a higher social status. Make friends that will last, not dissolve because of opinions or silly fights.
There y'all go. Enjoy. Or don't.
In this blogpost I am going to be sharing some things for people who may need to hear it right now. In the past, I have had many toxic friends so I decided to write what qualities make up a fake friend.
In definition, a toxic friend is a "friend" who acts like they are your best buddy at times, but are really rude and not someone who makes you feel good about yourself.
If you have noticed one of your friends goes behind your back or does things a real friend wouldn't do, you may have a toxic friend. Read the qualities below, and if you have a friend that connects to many of these, you may want to relook into that friendship.
Sign #1- You feel as though you are in competition with their other friends.
Do you think they give them a better friendship? They have things in common with her that you show no interest in? If you find yourself often studying the other friends to make sure they are not better than you, #1 that's kind of creepy and #2 you may not feel comfortable around your first friend in the end.
Sign #2- There is an imbalance in talk time.
Do you often feel as though the conversation is all about them? Whenever you try to talk about something, they turn the conversation about them? If they don't share an interest in what is going on in your life, or how you are doing or feeling, they are not worth your time.
Sign #3- They blurt out criticism with a self-righteous attitude.
It's important to be honest, but being kind should be equally as important. If they just straight up say to you, "I don't like your shirt," and you never asked for their opinion and they made you feel bad, why spend more time with them? If they are not open to criticism for them and they often cause you to not feel your worth, that is a bad friend.
Sign #4- You find yourself calling/texting them more than they text you.
If you feel as though they don't make as big as an effort to see you as much as you contact them, why bother? Hate to break it to you, but they probably don't care enough. This doesn't make you a bad person, but if they don't get as excited to see you as you get to see them, why are they worth another moment?
Sign #5- They tell you that you should change.
Um, honey, I should change? Maybe your attitude should change. Thats what you have to tell yourself. Never change who you are as a person, unless you are undeniably rude to them, in that case do change. But if you like grapes and they like strawberries, and they tell you that you need to like strawberries, say that you can like what you like and get out of that friendship.
Sign #6- You are nervous to talk to them, or you have to be careful what you say.
I don't know about you, but around my friends I'm unfiltered and I say what I want. If they tell me they don't agree, whatever. But if they are rude to you and say that you need a new opinion, that's not a good friend as a real friend would respectably disagree and respect your opinion.
Sign #7- You stress about seeing them.
If your "friend" expects you to be dressed in proper attire and be fancy when seeing them, they should care less what you look like and they would want to see you for your personality. Like if you are popular, and they only want to hang out with you to take instagram pics, that person is often insecure and needing a higher social status. Make friends that will last, not dissolve because of opinions or silly fights.
There y'all go. Enjoy. Or don't.
